Get to know your BDSM coach

I strongly encourage you to find out more about the person you will hire to coach you.
You would do the same when seeking a play-partner, right?
Just because somebody is offers professional services doesn’t mean you will have that click that is needed to build the trusting relationship on. Of course a pro will be better prepared that just a random person, but still,
we will need some common ground to start from… life views and ideas about….
And of course, there is a difference of energy when working with a female coach than with a male BDSM coach.

“Within my Dominant side, I have a big inclination towards the “Trainer-Dom”;
I love helping people to grow. Making their lives better is a big turn-on for me.”

My life mission is to create a world in which all inner aspects people possess are respected and loved.

My background:
My deepest memory of me enjoying BDSM goes back to early childhood.
But it would take until my 26th year that I wasn’t able to encounter a save person to whom I could freely unreveal all my “dirty little secret inclinations”. Only to find that these things  were quite common BDSM practices.

Very soon after that, (perhaps too soon) I got involved in the profesional BDSM within the Barcelona scene.
I learned with 3 of the local Dominatrixes whom were very rigid in their BDSM-visions. Perhaps they had to be, because a lot of educational work had to be done in this time and place where access information about BDSM was very limited, and often reduced to porn-movies.
Hence “supposed subs” showing up demanding services which are usually not included in the classical BDSM pro-dom sessions.
It was more than a half decade later that I first got in contact with a pioneer that started to offer Conscious Kink play parties.

Conscious Kink is another form of engaging with BDSM, which comes from somatic and emotional awareness-excersises. This form encourages all participants to play with their authentic inner aspects, without forced following the previous set rules.

At first I was totally upset by this new form, as it totally took away my false security figure, the “persona” that stood between the real me and the other player.
It took me a few years to get confortable with this. Now it’s my preferred way to play.

Fast-forward to 2018:
– I still do Pro-Domme sessions, but only with subs who’s profile and form of playing I truly enjoy.
– I also am a Therapeutic-Tantric BDSM-trainee, after attending a 40 hours intensive course in San Francisco, USA.
(Currently I am giving these therapeutic sessions in Barcelona under supervision from “Priestess”, the trainer at: Sensual Somatic institute)
– In 2016 I finished the 3 year teacher-training including over 250 hours of psychotherapy. I now facilitate this personal development dance-class to my weekly group.
– in 2017 I started coaching people, which is very fulfilling to my calling.
– summer 2018 I held space for the Deep Dive week “Erotic Mysteries”, facilitated by Seani Love.
– I facilitate talks and workshops on (Conscious) Kink.

Especially the “BDSM for the shy and curious”-talk attracts usually a vast crowd of people who want some kind of mentoring on how to start or how to get ahead with certain blockages they’ve encountered.
This is where I have found the path of outing my inner BDSM-coach,
which is in perfect linage of my desire to make the world a more harmonious place where alternative (sexual) needs can and will be met in a responsable, mature way.