What can a BDSM-coach do for you?

First off: welcome and congratulations for seeking out there what there is for help.
Nobody was born all-knowing and as live progresses new lessons pop up. Why figure them all out by yourself?

BDSM/Kink is a society challenging  form of enjoyment and thus brings more questions and obstacles to the surface than the usual, accepted vanilla inclinations. For the same reason it is a great opportunity to explore your courage, shame, pleasure, and multiples inner aspects and it may be a pathway to liberation and self-empowerment.

Sometimes it’s easier to walk down a path with somebody who has been there, who has been walking on it for a while and who has been checking out the different puddles, curves and quirks that characterizes this road.

For singles

  • You are new(ish?) to BDSM and don’t know where to start?
    There seems to be a lot of contradicting information out there and you feel overwhelmed?

  • You would like to go to clubs or parties, but you feel you don’t belong there yet.

  • You would like to be a good sub or dom (or else), with “credentials” in order to get a better chance with the subs/Dom(me)s (or else) out there?

  • Do you feel confused with your feminist worldview and your inner devotee? Let’s take a look at it together.
  • You want to learn how to make sure you don’t get abused, especially for subs, but also for tops.

  • You want to come out of the closet, but you don’t know how? Let’s prepare that together!

  • You would like to find a (steady?) partner to play with, but you haven’t been able to do so?

For couples

Some issues that might come up within a couple could be:

  • You both happen to be on the same side (sub&sub, or top&top), how to deal with this to find fulfilment for both.

  • How to balance your % of BDSM in your relationship?

  • Negotiations
  • One of you is not interested in BDSM, but the other one feels the urge… what to do?

  • Opening up a relationship to BDSM, is this possible?

  • Do you need a confidence-boost?

  • Ran out of things to do together?

For poly-uples

I warmly welcome all kinds of human relationships and encourage everybody to find their authentic relationship!

Is BDSM a part of yours and you could do with a bit of external light te be shed on it?
Many of the questions that arise for singles or for couples will probably also rise in poly-groups, I will happily attend them with all of you.
Contact me via the form on the contact-page.


  • You’ve always wanted to learn X, but your privacy too important to you to take a public class on this, or you need somebody to be able to adjust to your timetable.